#54 Revie Jane Speaks On Recovering from Childhood Trauma & Becoming a Great Mother

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Revie Jane is my guest today, an incredibly successful entrepreneur, podcast host and one of Australia’s leading content creators. Looking at her life on the outside, no one would know the devastating trauma and abuse she endured as a child and the healing journey she’s been on. 

At the age of 21, Revie started one of Australia’s first female only gyms, which catapulted her into the world of social media where she quickly grew a big following. Now, as a full time content creator, Revie uses her platform to share her story to bring hope to other people living with the devastating effects of trauma and abuse. 

In this episode, Revie gets really vulnerable as she shares about her childhood, growing up with a sexually abusive, alcoholic father and a narcissistic, bipolar mother. As a mother of two little girls, Revie lives with anxiety and complex post traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD) and is doing the incredibly hard work of breaking the cycle of abuse in her generational line. Revie opens up about what this looks like, the work she has done to unpack her trauma and fully love herself. We talk about her journey with motherhood and how she’s continuing to deal with and unpack her own experiences as a child while raising her daughters and what it truly means to be a great mother. 

Revie is an incredibly strong, resilient and beautiful woman whose journey is one to be deeply admired. She has pushed through a tremendous amount of adversity to be the person she is today and has so much to share with the world. 

Topics we cover and where to find them:

[1:20]: Practise self compassion. Be proud of where you are and who you’ve become.

[4:30]: Revie started a female only gym in 2013 which catapulted her into social media and grew a big following on Instagram. Now her full time role is content creation. 

[5:35]: Becoming a mother was the biggest catalyst for showing her vulnerability and being brave to share her story on her platform. She decided to do a national speaking tour talking about her journey with CPTSD and anxiety and sharing hope with others.

[7:30]: It’s one thing to be celebrated for her achievements, but to be embraced and loved while being truly seen has been so liberating. 

[8:15]: In highschool, sport was what kept Revie going through her turbulent upbringing. When she rejoined the gym after school, it was the first time she discovered a sense of self worth.

[10:20]: Revie wanted to share this feeling with as many women as possible, which is why she started her all female gym and moved into the online space. 

[12:00]: Playing touch football was where Revie was able to escape thoughts of home and be a child. She felt like she belonged and didn’t have to think about anything else.

[13:00]: Revie vulnerably shares about her upbringing with a sexually abusive, alcoholic father and narcissistic BPD mother and how her wounds are still so raw.

[14:38]: Revie started self harming after she was left alone in the family home but kept going to school every day and sought help from counsellors.  A friend’s family took her in and it was the first time she felt lovable. 

[16:15]: Living with anxiety and CPTSD doesn’t define her and the healing journey is not linear. This is what Revie aims to share with her podcast and her online space, which is very hard but the conversations are so needed. 

[18:15]: Revie opens up about self harm and how it stemmed from the trauma bond with her conditioning growing up. She had no idea about self love. 

[19:50]: Revie was numb for a long time but she hung on to any moment of kindness and the sport was therapy for her to keep going. 

[21:45]: At age 30, Revie has now embraced her imperfection and the journey she is on. She loves herself and who she is because she saved herself and has an empathy, compassion and resilience that not everyone has. 

[24:20]: Talking to her younger self has been the most confronting work she has done. Having her own children has been a huge mirror and intense part of healing work. 

[26:00]: Managing a day hard, Revie instinctively wants to close off but she chooses to meet herself in the same way she meets a friend with self compassion and patience. 

[27:50]: We always carry our inner child and the relationship between the two of you is so important. The work is constant and it can feel like you a burden to your partner.

[31:00]: As a mum, Revie is now reparenting herself as well. She has to unlearn, relearn and apply every day. She is teaching her daughters that when they stuff up, they are still loved and to love themselves. 

[33:30]: We’re all learning on the spot and every single mother is figuring it out as they go. 

[35:20]: Validating her kids when they are struggling is really healing for Revie. She is breaking the cycle of generational abuse. 

[36:45]: Revie’s advice to others is to unpack your trauma, no matter how hard it is. The cracks let the light in and give you the ability to feel on a deeper level. 

[38:20]: Revie talks about forgiveness and anger. She forgave her parents but their treatment was not acceptable. Being angry is a valid and beautiful emotion and it’s possible to love people while still being angry. 

[40:50]: Everything is temporary. Enjoy the good times and know that the bad times won’t last forever. 

Links and Resources Mentioned:

Instagram: @reviejane

Podcast: Empowered with Revie on Spotify

Empowered with Revie on Apple

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